MzMari3

So it is T-136 days until my party! What party you may ask? The party in which I invite people who I have not seen in ages or even remember to come watch me and some other people I have begged to be a part of my day. I will be dressed up, along with the other VIP guests that are forced to help participate in this party. Ok, not really, but you get what I mean. I have never had a party this detailed.

This party has been the hardest and most interesting journey I have gone through when it comes to planning. This wedding industry is the worst. IMO (No offense to those who are in the industry) But did yall know you can rent the same venue for the same times but call it a wedding and the prices will jump? Same goes for everything else you need for your wedding. The wedding industry sells this huge dream that starts at about $25k for 8 hours. But I digress.

I FINALLY booked a venue!! That took forever! I am still in search of a caterer though. Preferred caterers!! OMG, those are two words that can make you cringe if you are on a budget. I just can’t imagine watching my guest eating $5,000 worth of food. Do you know how much groceries I can buy with $5,000??? I know, I know, its more than the food. But I’m not going into that either.

I have had people hang up on me because they told me that my budget was too low! lol Jokes on them, I didn’t want them at my wedding anyway…. I have also somehow been added to the national bride registry and receive an extreme amount of unnecessary (for me because I am not rich) promotions. It’s a lot!! A LOT

In my head I have done so much, when I am asked, it seems as I have done a lot, but when I look at everything, I feel like I have done nothing. My wedding coordinators say I am on target but I’m trying to figure out which target am I aiming for because I don’t see it.

Well, this blog isn’t to complain or vent, just to share what has been going on and some tips for non brides.

Here are some suggestions for those who are NOT brides:

1. Ask your fellow bride what you can do to help, and really help!
2. Weddings aren’t free, your bride more than likely needs help with things that cost.
   If you aren’t willing to help out, don’t ask or seem concerned.
3. Weddings aren’t free, if you provide a service, help a sister out. Where is the community that we are supposed to have? If you sing or make cakes? Volunteer your services. Now I know some people aren’t happy with this because we all have to make money to live. But newlyweds need to be able to live after the wedding as well.
4. If you were a bride, you know the stress, help a sista out! Instead of telling your fellow bride how hard it is, offer suggestions, make some connections for her, remember when it was you.
5. Don’t ask if you are invited to the wedding. Weddings are expensive. Brides are AT LEAST paying about $30-65 per guest. You are basically asking a bride to pay for your tickets to an event. If you are not invited, it is not always because you are not liked, it is more than likely a budget thing.  Just imagine watching your guest eat away $5,000. Brides are not your sugar daddy, just send a gift and well wishes and keep it moving.

I am not sure if you got the theme of this blog but if you missed it, let me remind you:

WEDDINGS ARE NOT FREE, WEDDINGS ARE EXPENSIVE

*If I were rich, this blog would have never happened. I want to thank my amazing parents for keeping me so “humble” and making this possible. If weren’t for them, I wouldn’t be here.

**This blog is sponsored by all the people who are and will be helping me with this party by any means.

-MzMari3