MzMari3

So in the past six months, I have really been getting some weird (to me) comments, suggestions and questions. In my early years, when I was not as vocal, I would just take of the comments listen and keep moving. Now that I am older, I’m like naw shawty, I’m good on that.

The other day I was on the phone with a friend and we were talking about future plans. After discussing his plans, he tells me that I have nothing to worry about because I am getting married. So I asked what did that mean? He repeated himself. I was like getting married is not the end all be all! Especially these divorce rates out here. BRUH!  I explain to him that I needed a plan. So what if I moved, where am I going to work, or what am I going to do if I am not working? What goals do I still want to accomplish?

Here’s the thing, if I just “get married”, I’m going to “get divorced” real soon. Don’t nobody want to take care of nobody just because they are married. I know I better have something going on before y’all start to realize I have deleted a bunch of pictures from social media. (Don’t act like you dont have that friend that be secretely deleting pics of bae when it don’t work out. )

This sparked some thoughts from my past. Apparently people have been so invested in my life where I have heard plans for my life that I never even hinted to. That frustrates me the most. I have been congratulated by people I do not know, who I never told them anything.

First things first, I literally did nothing for the ring. He chose the ring, and he gave it to me. I didn’t even know I was getting a ring. I just thought we were riding camels into the sunset in Dubai. We should be congratulating him! Let’s give him a round of applause! Congrats boo! I just accepted the ring lol

Anywho, I am not sure why it is assumed that just because I am getting married that I am automatically moving! Where did they get that from? I have actually asked this question. I was told that it is common that the woman moves where the man is when they get married. SAYS WHO? He can pack his bags and move with me. Ahhh never thought about that, huh?

I am also tired of older women telling me what my role is when I get married. OMG, if I had a dollar for every time some older lady comes and tells me what I have to do, I’d be rich and move out the country. It’s so annoying! I had this lady tell me that I need to start practicing being in the kitchen. Girl please! You don’t know my life. I didn’t grow up like that. And that is not the arrangement I have for my future.  He can get in that kitchen too.

By the way, to all y’all who keep giving me these cute, EXPENSIVE, unsolicited ideas for my wedding, be prepared to pay up. I refuse to be in any debt and/or put my parents into debt after this. That’s not an adult move. Not cute either when you and bae (or your parents) sitting on the couch talking about how to pay bills this month because ya’ll still paying off the wedding. That’s not how I roll. I got too many plans, that does not include debt. I plan to walk away, everyone paid, and money in my account. DONE. Not looking back.

Oh, one more thing, just a thought: I believe that Steve Harvey has been married enough times to have some kind of knowledge about marriage. Give him a try. Let me know what you get! LOL

This is just my rant for the day. Has anyone else gone through this?!

-Mz.Mari3

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